Art of conversation.

Today for the first time in a long time i come to you from a place green and idylic, frought with new and challenging(sometimes pleasurable)obsticals. How do you change who you are? haw do you adapt to new people who no matter how hard you try to bend and change to them in order to make them happy ,only end up irritating them more each day. we live in a enviroment where confluence, good communication and friendship are paramount. I know many people especially those of the feminine notion express their disire that men try more, so i ask what if you do , what if you ty to the utmost only to be shot down at each turn? I am one of those who although articulate on paper tend to melt in front of other ( especially girls) and be reduced to a blatthering mess.part in parcel of this seems to be compounded by the lession of learning to pray more before I speak,The art of conversation seems to be so much more than the understanding of words, rather the nuonces of facial expressions, tones, or gestrations. Is what you heard what he said? did he mean it in a sarcastic or serious tone? what was he doing while saying it? all in all i have resorted to that (and this to all girls out there)unless we learn to take others as they are, not as we think, when we learn to take others at there word , not at what we conjured or read into or analysed it to be. we will be forever frought with hurt, misunderstanding and a lack of love and faith for those we work ,live and love with.Let us show each person we converse with a mind that is free of prejudiced thought or critical or negative thinking, then we will have many more friendships and love that will not hinge on a whim.